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%26lt;%26lt;BASIC ADVICE TO TACKLE WORKPLACE BULLIES


DOCUMENT AND DIARISE ALL SIGNIFICANT EVENTS RELATING TO YOUR BULLY. ACCUMULATE ALL EVIDENCE THAT WOULD SUPPORT YOUR CASE.








Decide if you want to make a complaint about your workplace bully to HR. This is risky as the person you complain to could side with your bully and it could get worse for you. It may be only worth doing this if you have good supportive evidence and/or the support of coworkers.








It may be possible to successfully coexist with your bully by ';keeping your head down';. It is a balancing act to be tactfully assertive to avoid your bully breaching your personal boundaries. For example, tactfully decline requests by your bully if you think that he is just attempting to manipulate you. You need to make it known to your bully that you are not a pushover and the bully may consequently find it easier to find another victim to manipulate. However, going too far and overtly criticising your bully can be dangerous. It can make him very angry (known as ';narcissistic rage';) and things could get a lot worse for you.








A variant of the previous strategy that may be worth trying, is to resist getting angry or respond to your bully when he taunts you. He may get off on making you angry so if you don't react or get angry he may get bored with you and go and bully someone else.








Once a bully has successfully breached your personal boundaries, he will just keep on doing it and successively try to breach forever deeper. He may intimidate you, yell at you, belittle you, make false accusations, try to get you to apologise for something that was not your fault. He may continually attempt to undermine your work, your self confidence and your self esteem. Once the bully manages to get you to play his game by manipulation and deceit, he is in control and recovering from the situation becomes increasingly difficult. He has sunk his claws into you. He may, for example, start smearing your name by spreading false rumours and get others to bully you on his behalf (known as mobbing).








It may be best just to cut your losses and run by getting another job.





You are unlikely to make a bully see the error of his ways as bullying is most likely second nature to him (called egosyntonic) - he is ';in denial';. It is usually a waste of time even trying. Chief bullies frequently have an incurable personality disorder. Bullies are commonly narcissistic and are often referred to as control freaks. They use a psychological defense mechanism called ';projection'; to offload their own failings and sense of shame onto the target. They claim that the target is to blame and he is the victim. They use scapegoating and even engineer failure by the target by setting them up to fail. Others may get taken in by the bully's manipulative charm and delusions - even some psychologists.





The only way you are likely to beat a bully is to get support from someone who has leverage and authority over the bully thus putting the bully back in his box.





Bullying can be overt and/or covert, where covert bullying is ';passive-aggressive'; behaviour.





PLEASE CHECK OUT THESE EXCELLENT RADIO INTERVIEWS


Interview with Martha Stout - author of ';The Sociopath Next Door';


A workplace bully target interviewed by John Peel on Radio 4














EXCELLENT ANTI-BULLYING WEBSITES


Tim Field's superb ground breaking ';Bullyonline'; website





';Ban Bullying at Work'; website








The Workpace Bullying Institute website








Humane Resources website








Bullied Academics website








Dignity At Work Now website








Workplace Bullying Online Support Community








Workplace Bullying entry on Wikipedia








EXCELLENT BULLY PSYCHOLOGY WEBSITES


Toxic Managers and Corporate Psychopaths





Narcissistic Personality Disorder MSN Group








Psychopath and Narcissist Survivors Support Group - An Online Support Community For Abuse Survivors








Narcissism guru Sam Vaknin's website








EXCELLENT ANTI-BULLYING BOOKS


Bully in Sight: How to Predict, Resist, Challenge and Combat Workplace Bullying - Overcoming the Silence and Denial by Which Abuse Thrives (by Tim Field)





Workplace Bullying: A Costly Business Secret (by Andrea Needham)








The Bully at Work (by Gary Namie)








Bullying at Work: How to Confront and Overcome It (by Andrea Adams)








When You Work for a Bully: Assessing Your Options and Taking Action (by Susan Futterman)








Mobbing: Emotional Abuse in the American Workplace, 2002 Revised Edition (by Noa Davenport, Ruth D. Schwartz, Gail Pursell Elliott)








Mobbing (by Heinz Leymann)








The Bullying Culture (by Ruth Hadikin, Muriel O'Driscoll)








EXCELLENT BULLY PSYCHOLOGY BOOKS


Snakes in Suits : When Psychopaths Go to Work (by Paul Babiak, Robert D. Hare)





Coping with Toxic Managers, Subordinates ... and Other Difficult People: Using Emotional Intelligence to Survive and Prosper (by Roy H. Lubit)








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If you are capable at your work then go somewhere else. Organizations that permit bullying do not deserve your contributions.


Find someplace that has work available that you enjoy.