Good people: please read, I need some serious advice & opinions?

Years ago, I had a best friend named Zach. We'd talk on the phone for hours %26amp; spend time together in school as often as we could. The bad thing, was that he was a compulsive liar, %26amp; would lie to me constantly, %26amp; I wouldn't figure it out unless I'd question him about something he'd said %26amp; he'd reply, ';Oh, yea sorry.'; It was hard to know when to trust him.


One day he had called me %26amp; said he wanted to be more than friends, but he always had a different crush each week, %26amp; he was dating a good friend of mine at the time, so I told him we should stay friends only. He was okay with it.


He was bisexual, %26amp; he had a crush on this boy but was too nervous to give him a note, because he didn't know if he was bi too. So, by his request, I gave it to the boy. The boy figured out it was from Zach %26amp; started telling everyone Zach was bi, %26amp; Zach didn't want to be open with his sexuality.





(adding more details)Good people: please read, I need some serious advice %26amp; opinions?
What is most greatly appreciated is your concern and care over a human incident. Many others could easily justify cutting such a person out of their life altogether shortly after determining that person was a compulsive liar.





However, you were able to see around that and realize that no one consciously chooses to have such a characteristic. Every one in the world has some kind of defect, be it physical, mental, emotional, whatever the spectrum of human possibility; and no one wants any defect.





You can console yourself even in the face of the fact that you cannot apologize to this person that you will always remember this lesson; that you will very likely be quicker to speak up about your true caring.





Your crying was a manifestation of the depth of your care and true love. Take that and nurture yourself to blossom even further.Good people: please read, I need some serious advice %26amp; opinions?
You cant blame yourself for the way you reacted. Its normal to be mad when someone hurts you. Though it is a sad story there is a lesson to be learned about forgiveness. You should always try and forgive those who do you wrong even when it is hard. But you cant balme yourself for his death if thats what your doing you had nothing to do with that. I hope that helps. =)
Hey hun,


I know you feel like if you had done something different, things might have changed, but everything in this world happens for a reason! Think of what your life could have ended up like, if you took the path that he was on. His lies could have affected your life in very bad ways! We all have people who leave our lives to shortly, and there are always going to be the questions What if? Why? and so on. The thing you have to remember is it is in no way your fault! Stop blaming yourself, it wasn't anything YOU did wrong!
Let me start by saying the loss of someone close is not easy to over come. You are having regrets about how you handled the friendship. You did not say how old he was. Sounded like you are coping well. Remember that you stood up for the truth in your relationship with Zack. You showed courage. You did not enable Zack to live the lie with you. Stand up for what is right and honest. Honour his memory and life and use the experience of knowing him to make yourself a better person. You did not enable him by giving into his lies. Just like not giving an alcoholic a drink. He needed to learn to live his life with honesty. Celebrate the fact that good or bad, you knew him for the short time he was here.
Oh gosh!! i feel your pain. Although what he did to you was bad, it was plain nasty but you have to remember that he was still trying to come out about being ';Bi'; and like you mentioned that he was a compulsive liar..just dont beat yourself up about it. All you have to do is forgive youself and mourn your friends death. Pray, If you put yoursellf at peace , he will also be at peace
You shouldn't feel guilty about not saying goodbye. It's not ur fault that he was a liar and blamed you when in fact he was the bisexual one. No one could have known he would have died in that accident. What if he didn't? You probably wouldn't be worried about ur friendship. He probably knows he was wrong for what he did and he never got the chance to tell you. I'd just pray about it and time will heal ur heart. good luck
Friends that lie aren't trustworthy and when they get caught up in it, they lose friends knowing full well what they are doing.





You shouldn't feel guilty at all - he wasn't true to himself or to you...
Look to be honest


It is not your fault and do not blame yourself


no one knew that hed die in a car accident


also he didnt do the right thing for you too...


just to cover himself he put you in a bad situation, the person that i'd blame is that freging moron that yelled the rumour.


so dont blame yourself :)%26lt;3


i know how you feel, and yes you thought of that you should be with him and be their for him, but he has wronged you too.


Just dont worry about it :)


right now he's probebly in a better place.


so ya good luck :)%26lt;33
Dear Gogol,





I'm a trained Dreamwalker, so I feel I can give you some comfort (a Dreamwalker has the ability to cross over in consciousness to commune with and help those who have crossed)





I'm feeling that if you are all of a sudden thinking about him now, after 2yrs and in this way, it's because he is around you again and you are feeling him. You are feeling his regret and he is sorry for what he did to you. And that what you're feeling is not your feelings at all, but his. You just think they're your feelings. He's in all likelyhood wishing you could hear him.





The veil between this world and the next is alot thinner than people think it is. What seems like a brick wall is really nothing more than a fine, gauzy curtain. So, if you have anything to say to him just say it and trust me, he'll hear you. You will be able to tell by the warm fuzzy feeling that comes over you in reply. You may even feel a gentle touch on your head or face. You probably won't get a ';voice'; response. It will come through feelings. Allow your feelings and trust them. It may translate later into thoughts that you think are yours.





And then let him go. If you continue to hang onto your guilt, it will only keep him chained to you in an unhealthy way for the both of you. And it will keep him from going on to the higher realms. It's not good to perpetually hang around the Near Earth realms. It's not heaven, it's limbo. So give him your love, make your peace and then tell him it's OK to go on. It'll set you both free.





And as for how you handled things in the past, well, you were only doing what was right for you. You did what you did because you knew it was a toxic relationship for your life and it had to end. Maybe you did him a huge favour because it caused him to look at and learn something about himself. There's HUGE value in that. And at the core all agreements and contracts, even though they may not look pretty here on Earth, always have love at the core.





So, in fact, you fulfilled your agreement with him simply by looking after yourself. Let go of the guilt, it serves nothing.





I hope that helps. Give yourself a hug.





Blue