My friend is in love with 2 people and I need 2 give her advice!! Help!?

My friend was w/ this guy 5 yrs ago and the relationship didnt work out bcuz she moved away 4 work. But they would talk on the phone almost everyday after she left, and they really love each other. Well, she pretty much thought that even tho they love each other, it can't work bcuz of distance. So she kinda 'moved' on and got married to a new guy 3 years later after still loving this original guy. She kinda rushed into marriage, and they have problems but they are both mature %26amp; try to make things work. And they love each other very much. So now she loves hubby, but the love is different than with old flame. She still loves her flame even more than she did bfore, but she cant get him out of her head no matter how hard she tries. Problems w/ hubby have ALMOST ended in divorce, but they try to work things out Marriage is important 2 both of them. But the flame can't get out of her head. Probs w/ hubby are: different goals in life, different personalities etc. She doent know what 2 do..My friend is in love with 2 people and I need 2 give her advice!! Help!?
She can't really love them both. She never stopped loving the first guy. They only broke up becasue of the distance. When she moved, she decided it was best for her to move on with someone else, even though she was still in love with another man. She loves one of them and has feelings for the other. Who knows which is really which. The problem is now, that she has already committed herself to the man in her marraige. She needs to try and work on that. Its hard to do sometimes becasue we can't just shut our feelings off. Our head tells us one thing, in her case it told her to move on becasue she couldn't be with old guy becasue of distance and our heart may tell us something different, again in this case, it still tells her she loves the other guy and she can't get him off her mind. Since her and the old guy really did love each other they should have tried to work things out rather than breaking up over something like distance,that could have been worked on. The problem is, we can go with what our head tells us but our heart will always be there reminding us of what we really wanted. A marriage where people have different goals, personalities and things they enjoy is going to be really hard to make it through. At this point though, she has made her choice in life by getting married and she just needs to concentrate on that. If she doesn't her whole life and her new family will be very miserable.My friend is in love with 2 people and I need 2 give her advice!! Help!?
It doesn't really sound like either of them really and truly love each other. Its a shame that her and the guy she really loved didn't try to stay together or both move so they could be together. When you really have someone you love like that, you should do everything you can to make it work, no matter what the problem. Its hard to find real love like that. We can find other people that we think we love but sometimes we are just kidding ourselves.
She does not respect her husband or she would have long let go of an old flame. It was her decision to let go of the relationship just because of distance.





She never really loved her husband or respected him. It might look like love, but they do not get along well and she is still pining for another man. Neither of those are signs of true love.





She should get divorced and go after the other guy no matter what the distance. She is hurting herself, her husband and her old flame. If the old flame is no longer interested in her, then she has really messed up.





Great relationships are hard to come by and if you let small things like distance destroy them then you lose. Her decisions have been small minded and she is paying for them now.





Take care,


Troy
she needs professional help to help her sort this out.she can't possibly do this on her own without guidance.then she needs to have the husband in for help too so they can sort out what to do.
She needs to stick with her husband.